I Hate My Voice


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I Hate My Voice

I’ve decided that I need to blog more this year. And when I say blog, I mean not just book promos for fellow authors. I’m a writer, I have fans (which actually sounds really strange). My fans, and real human beings want to know more about me, so this year, I’ll ramble on about what I like, my thoughts, my reactions. I welcome you all to comment and join in. Come and say hi, I won’t bite.

But this evening, I’ve decided to talk about something IΒ don’t like. It’s something I feel holds me back – it stops me from doing things, creates anxious frustration when I’m offered the chance to take part in things. Most of us, and I’m sorry to be sexist, but statistics do show that it is mostly women – there are things that we simply don’t like about ourselves. You know what I mean, don’t you – the does-my-bum-look-big-in-this sort of self-concious nag that is never too far away from your mind. Big ears, crooked teeth, nervous twitch – the list is plentiful.

I hate my voice. And by voice, I mean my actual voice, not my writing voice. Some people, people I’ve trusted to tell, think I’m being silly, but I honestly, truly feel so negatively about it. In public speaking events, book talks, talking to readers, I suddenly become aware of my my pitch, my tone. How do I sound to other people? Are they taking me seriously, or are they trying their damn hardest to not laugh. I’m naturally an introvert anyway – aren’t most bookers? But when I start to over think things, I actively become quieter. I try to answer in the easiest and quickest ways. When it gets so bad, I often become aware that I just nod or shake my head.

Now I know a lot of people don’t like their voice when they’ve heard themselves back on telephone answering machine – that sort of thing.

hate my voice1Where did this come from I hear you ask? Well, if I dig deep and go back, I guess it stems back from my early teenage years. I’m not going to go into murky depths of puberty changes, but everyone knows, when a boy progresses into a man, their voice breaks. Only, there isn’t a one off event where the voice does ‘break’ – it’s more a lengthy period of about a year where the voice will squeak, go high-pitched, even cut off entirely!

I remember an event where, after seeing a bad school photo, I went into my form room and told my friend that the photo was rubbish. Only, when I said it, my voice went extremely loud and squeaky. If I had a had a sip or two of helium balloon beforehand it may have been funny, but I didn’t. The entire class heard me and laughed. Can’t kids be cruel sometime? Rather than shaking it off, laughing at myself for how silly it was, I took it to heart. It tore at my insides.

We all have an idea of how we sound when the noise echoes in our head, but it is in fact very, very different. I’m no longer a teenager. I successfully meandered my way through puberty and survived the hormone attacks that period brings. My voice no longer ‘breaks’.

So why do I still get nervous about it all? Why do I give a damn what people may think of my voice? I can’t change it, can I? Confidence breeds success and all that. Maybe if I stopped setting myself back on what IΒ think people may think and got on with things, I may discard this silly trait altogether.

We’ll see. I’m contemplating doing an occasional vlog (video blog) post. My nice new shiny laptop has a webcam feature! Ooohhhh – sexy, right? I haven’t made my mind up yet. Who knows? Maybe I will throw caution to the wind and go for it!

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7 thoughts on “I Hate My Voice

  1. Reblogged this on Autumn Orchard and commented:
    Dan Thompson bares one of his dislikes.

  2. I hate mine and I’ve just had to ignore it and bite the bullet for the crime book club. Jump in feet first. You hate it but we won’t.

    1. Thanks, Rebecca. 2015 is going to be a more positive year – ive decided

  3. I know how you feel… I hate mine too, and I’m very aware of it. Just like you, it would put me off public speaking, which is nerve wracking enough as it is. And because I always believe in challenging myself, I too had thought of doing some vlogs. Maybe we should both post one together… moral support… 😊

    1. Sounds like a great idea, Ali. Thanks for commenting. Public speaking is nerve wracking, isnt it!! I have to force myself to do it.

  4. Oh my gosh, Dan, I’m exactly the same! It’s kind of comforting to read this because I honestly thought it was just me who hated my own voice. Like you, it can be traced back to kids laughing at me in school, and it affects everything I do now. I absolutely hate talking on the phone, and am terrified of speaking in public or anything like that! It makes me feel better to know that men have insecurities like this too. I think mine mostly comes from having an English accent but growing up in Wales, I speak (and write, which has to be edited out a lot!) with a mix of the two accents and dialects, and I can’t blame kids (and teachers!) for laughing at my dreadful attempts to speak Welsh in Welsh class, but it’s amazing how much little things stay with you for the rest of your life.

    For what it’s worth, I think you should be brave and do a vlog, I’m sure no one would ever notice anything about your voice. It’s definitely us who obsess over it and not anyone else – now we’re adults, anyway!

    1. Lol! What a great response, Jaimie. Im sorry they laughed at you – what an awful memory though. We all sound ‘off’ when speaking a foreign language – you should hear my German πŸ˜‰

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